How many children are you suppose to have. So I started answering the questions and they went a little like this
1. Do you have kids
Yes/no
2. How many siblings do you have
3. Do you like time to yourself
A. Yes everyday
B. every once in a while
C. What is that
4. When you see big families in the mall you think
A. That looks fun can't what to have kids
B. that looks fun but not for me
C. Those people are insane
4. Do you think an only child is
A. Spoiled
B. bad manners and temper
C. Depends on the parents
5. Do you wanna raise your family in the
A city
B suburbs
C country
6. Do you think children are expensive
A yes but worth it
B yes how am I going to pay for college
C no
D yes but so it everything else in life
7. How do you feel about children
A I love them
B. I like them but get overwhelmed with two many
C they can be quite annoying
So it is not 100% but it went a little bit like that. At the end of answering the questions with complete honesty I was not surprised when they told me 4. Not because I want 4, heavens no, but because of how society acts. You must be a cold heartless selfish person to only want two children. I mean of course I don't like children of course I think they are two expensive of course I think big families are crazy. Or maybe just maybe I can love children to death, not even get a little annoyed at how expensive they are, love the sounds of kids laughing and playing and heaven for bid only want 2. I went in and took the test again answering the questions the way they would want me to and I got 1 child.
I get asked on probably a weekly basis, as I am sure most of you women do, how many children do you want. Or I get judged on a weekly basis in two very different ways. From members in my church it is always so when is the next one coming, or how many more you going to have, cause their is no way you could be done at 2. From people that don't go to my church it is always oh great a boy and a girl now you can be done, because you would be crazy to want more. I read an awesome blog post the other day from a women with a big family and how she gets so annoyed with the world judging her for having so many kids so close together. I agree the world is so bad for doing that. Big families are beautiful and fun and chaotic and a lot of work, but it is that families chose to have as many aborable kiddos as they want. Then there is my church and they are just as bad on the flip side. I am this horrible, selfish commandment breaking women for only wanting two. I constantly feel like I have to justify to people that I love my children because I only want two. The famous question I get asked all the time... "Why only two?". Even if Wade would have been a girl we were done. I use to be one of those people that constantly judged everybody for there actions, not that I am perfect now, however I think I got so sick and tired of being judged myself all the time I finally started to look at everybody's side. Started seeing the beauty in everybody being different. I don't know if this blog post will make any difference in the world, I do hope though that people will look at me differently and that even though I want a small family I love my kids more then anything, my world revolves around them and I wouldn't want it any other way.
